Let’s talk about sex, sexuality and gender

An introduction to Sex Therapy:

Sex Therapy is generally given as a full body treatment and combines traditional therapeutic massage with sensual arousal techniques that usually includes genital massage which may lead to orgasm.

It is a massage that does not attempt to ignore sexual arousal but actively embraces it as the natural process that it is. The best sex therapy should always be given to the whole body and as well as incorporate the effleurage and kneading techniques of traditional therapeutic massage. It will also include targeted arousal procedures thus creating an ebb and flow of erotic arousal and relaxation. Its purpose is to provide the “receiver” with an experience where they are able to remain unconcerned as to how their body reacts to the touch and that the feeling of arousal is normal.

These arousal procedures can include very light fingertip touch, use of body to body contact, hugging and holding. The sex therapy should be given in a warm caring, even seductive environment with the therapist emphasising the non judgemental supportive nature of the treatment enabling the “receiver to completely “let go” and experience, as naturally as possible, the bodies primal arousal systems.

As well as the traditional therapeutic techniques the sex therapy may include, according to the “receivers” request and personal boundaries; The scrotum and penis will receive massage and stimulation and for some men internal and external anal massage, particularly of the prostate gland.

Increasingly sex therapy is being sought for those who are exploring their sexuality and wanting to experience sensual intimacy with the same sex but in a situation that is without the pressure of expectation to perform or take part in any full sexual activity.

Sex Therapy is good for those seeking:

  • Muscle relaxation and time out
  • Escape from stress and anxiety by completely “letting go”
  • Boosting the immune system and improving sleep
  • A need for sensual intimacy that may be missing from their daily lives
  • Sensual exploration to discover erogenous areas of the body
  • Sexuality exploration
  • Same sex intimacy

Straight men seeking male to male sex therapy:

The traditional heterosexual man, who is either married, in relationship or single is becoming aware of the desire to experience sensual intimacy with another man. For some men this feeling can be comfortable and one that they feel happy to explore in their own time. However for many others the first step to male / male intimacy can be at best daunting and at worst a frightening almost incomprehensible thought and yet it is something that they know they want to experience.

Is this a new phenomenon or just a shift in culture that has released something that is a fundamentally natural urge in us all? Maybe it is because with the advent of the internet and the accessibility of erotic material many men who in the past would have held back from viewing same sex material are now able to do so with ease and are finding themselves surprisingly drawn to it. But because we live in a world that labels us as sexual stereo types many of these men can feel that they have “Become Gay”. It is not so commonly known that in the world of human psychology it is now generally believed that humans are probably naturally bi sexual and that all men and women have the capacity to be attracted socially, emotionally, intimately and sexually to both sexes and for quite different motivations.

There are few experiences more pleasurable than to be stroked, caressed and cared for intimately by another’s touch. From the moment we are born we are touched and physically nurtured by our parents making us feel warm and safe in a new and strange world. Our bodies are physically, emotionally and psychologically designed for this, it is no coincidence that for most of us, when feeling another’s touch, it relaxes us, stimulates us, we feel good, we feel we belong and rarely will we ask for it to stop.

What a typical sex therapy treatment  is like

The Ultimate Full Body Package combines both regular muscle work with intimate touch that can, but not necessarily include orgasm. The  sex therapy takes place between a giver (myself) and a receiver (client). Each appointment lasts 2 hours. It falls into three steps, Introduction Step, (15 min), Therapeutic Step, (60 min) and the Erotic Step (30 min plus 15 min to shower and depart).

1. Introduction Step

It is important that prior to the sex therapy starting that any questions, concerns or desires you have are highlighted. I will want to have a brief outline of your current health and fitness, any muscular problems you may have and details of any medication that you may be taking. It is important that you tell me if you suffer from any heart condition, diabetes, or have had recent surgery or have any open cuts or skin conditions. If you have not showered within 1 hour before arriving for the appointment then you will be expected to take a shower before receiving the treatment.

2. Therapeutic Step

The Therapeutic Step follows the line of a traditional massage and is designed to relax the body, work out any strained or aching muscles and ultimately put your mind and body into a state of ease. You begin by laying naked on your front, the massage starts with a few breathing and relaxation exercises and gentle stroking touch. Warm oil is then applied to the back and shoulders that are given a full 30-minute deep tissue massage, working out any knots or tension. This is particularly good for those suffering from tight shoulders or lower backache. After 30 minutes you will generally fall into a state of rest and it is usually at this time the body and mind begin to let go and become calm. The massage continues with the buttocks, calves, back and inner thighs and at this point in order to increase the state of arousal more sensual strokes are introduced gently stimulating the inner thighs and outer areas of the groin, scrotum, penis and anal areas. After about 45 minutes you will turn over and the massage continues with gentle massage of the feet and ankles. I continue working on the front of legs and upper thighs and intimate areas around the groin, at this point it is probable that you will again become partially or fully aroused but held back from orgasm. You are encouraged to express yourself with sound or movement letting the flow of sensual energy seep around your body. The massage then continues with the hands, arms, chest and shoulders, maintaining throughout an ebb and flow of your senses taking you in to a high state of arousal, preparing you for the following more intimate step of the sensual massage, the Erotic Step.

3. Erotic Step

The goal of this step of the sex therapy is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the penis, balls and anus. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and do not have to worry about achieving any particular goal. When and if orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Lying comfortably on your back with your legs gently apart I will begin with gentle massage of the groin area around the inner thighs and anus (internally is optional). As arousal becomes more intense the whole penis is carefully stimulated incorporating several different techniques to enhance the erotic sensations eventually building to a full body orgasm. The intensity of this can be very strong and it is usually indicated by the receiver when they require to rest. The massage continues with gentle stroking of the whole body as time is given for the energy to subside.

The treatment  ends with a further 10 minutes head and face massage to calm the whole body; taking you deep into restful semi consciousness. You are welcome to take another shower following the session.

Respect for personal boundaries

The personal boundaries of both client and therapist must always be respected. If there is any aspect of the massage that you feel goes beyond your own personal boundaries then please let me know immediately. Equally if I feel my personal boundaries are being crossed I will indicate this politely and ask you to refrain from what you are doing. If this is not respected I am entitled to terminate the treatment without a refund of the fee.

Hygiene

All treatments are carried out in a clean professional environment and fresh towels and excellent shower facilities are available both before and after the treatment. If you have not showered within 1 hour before arriving for the appointment then you will be expected to take a shower before receiving the massage.

Oils / Shower Body Wash

I use non aromatic massage oils / shower body wash.

Precautions

Massage therapy is not recommended for certain people:

  • People with infectious skin disease, rash, or open wounds
  • Immediately after surgery
  • Immediately after chemotherapy or radiation, unless recommended by your doctor
  • People prone to blood clots as there is a risk of blood clots being dislodged.
  • If you have heart disease, please check with your doctor before having a massage.
  • Massage should not be done directly over bruises, inflamed skin, unhealed wounds, tumours, abdominal hernia, or areas of recent fractures.

Additional massage tips

Don’t eat a heavy meal before the massage. Drink plenty of water after the massage to flush out toxins released during the treatment.

What do I wear during my massage?

  • The massage is conducted fully nude. There is no need to be shy as I will be fully nude too.
  • Full nudity is not a must though. If you would rather leave your underwear on you are welcome to do so. I can be clothed as well, if this is your preference.

Do I need to make a booking?

  • Generally it is advised that you do, otherwise I need 45 minutes prior notice.

Do you accept eftpos and credit cards?

  •  No Eftpos or credit card facilities.
  • Cash only.
  • Payment must be made prior to the treatment commencing.

Privacy / Discretion – integrity is everything

  • Your privacy is of the upper most importance. Discretion is reassured.

Can I touch / massage my masseur?

  • Two way intimate touch between the client and masseur is allowed in all sensual massage packages.
Guide to douching Douching should be done at least 2 hours prior to playing. The desired end result is to clean the lower intestinal tract of any noticeable faecal matter, which can be irritating and has the capacity to spread diseases. The process involves progressive enemas/douching until the water expelled is clear. Plain water enemas are best. Using a water temperature that is between lukewarm and body temperature, slowly take in as much water as you can, hold it for a while, if possible, and then expel it. Repeat the process until the water comes out clean. The process can take anywhere from a few minutes to almost an hour. The goal is to clean out the intestinal tract. Using a douche nozzle attached to your shower is a simple method. When you are relatively certain that you are clean, not all of the water may have been expelled immediately. Sometimes water gets trapped in portions of the intestinal tract and may take a few minutes to reach he lower colon to be expelled. It is a good idea to wait for a period of time after cleaning out before actually playing so the colon can absorb tiny amounts of water that were trapped and not expelled.